Hey me and my wife are having some marital problems and now my job is a little slow and i cant pay for everything anymore.I spoke to her and she freaked out saying i do help she pays the pseg bill and the cable i said thats not enough.S am i wrong for asking for help oh and by the way i paid 5,000 for her to go to…
ok, it sort of seems like you set the standard here by paying for everything so far. Bills should be split equally. If one person makes significantly more than the other than it should be proportional but you should never have been footing most of the bills in the first place. It’s time you sit her down for a chat and work out what is fair.
Wow, I believe I really hope love is there for both of you thru thick and thin . When a couple marries everything should be equal( apparently , she doesn’t see it that way now). You should have a talk with your wife and make her understand , she ain’t single anymore and should be there for all these bills as you where there for her education. See, if she has a separate savings account ,,,, who is to say you guys cant both use that money to help out on bills . I know I would do it for my man . Besides , you married for better and for worse. I think she needs to hear this from the man she loves(which is you) , even if it takes that you need to put your foot down on this one . I really hope she comes to her right mind , besides it will help both of you not just her. She doesn’t come to her senses ( the heck with it ) don’t pay something that you both don’t need (or better yet something she doesnt need)cable can be one .At times we have to sacrifice to live in this world .Things don’t come free . My best luck to you . I really hope she comes to her senses and realizes she ain’t the only one living in the household. Best of luck.
While you are both in a slump, you both contribute as much as you can. If one of you is weak, the other compensates. This goes for everything! Your wife is selfish, but I want to know why you keep your money seperate. My husband and I have a joint account, a budget, and allow a fair amount of spending money for the both of us. This way the bills get paid and neither one of us makes a major purchase without talking about it first. You need to stop keeping score. You helped her with school because you wanted to—probably not fair or a good idea to hold that over her head. I do agree that she should be kicking in to the household bills while times are tough, and always.
You should have had her paying half right from the very beginning of your marriage. Too late for that, but not too late for the bills that are coming in today.
Remind her that if you get a divorce and she is making more money than you, she’ll end up having to pay spousal support.
I’d be suspicious that she doesn’t want to pay out. What is she doing with her money? Hoarding it for the day she cuts and runs from you?
here’s my viewpoint (i’m a woman & i’m married). When you are in a marriage. You are in it TOGETHER. So I would make her pay some, especially if your job is slow. Tell her that if she don’t pay than she will have to sell some of her clothes! HAHAH! Also, remind her that you pay for everything including her college tuition & that you are only asking her to pay a few bills not all of them. She will understand. If not, you may need to get a new wife! NO Just kidding! Good Luck!
both should be paying the bills. I make more than my husband does, but both our money goes for all the bills. Once the bills have been taken care of, any money left over is used for stuff that we want (not necessarily need). I don’t see any reason why she can’t help you pay the bills!
She should absolutely help.
Marriages are for better or worse. You are hitting a rough spot in your life with work being slow. She needs to step up her game. If she were in that spot, you would need to step up your game. That’s what a husband and a wife do for each other.
I really dont’ know what to tell you other than talking to her calmly. Give her a budget that you think will be good for the household and that you should all stick to. Maybe that’ll help get her in the mood of being equal.
Separate accounts and separate bills are horrible for a marriage. You are one and so should your finances be. Each of you should deposit your pay into one account. All of the bills get paid, and some goes to savings. Whatever is left is there for the two of you to enjoy.
Since you keep everything apart, it’s no wonder you are having marital difficulties.
Join your lives and your hearts and things will be easier for both of you.
You two need financial counseling. You had better get it. There should be a checking account with both of your names on it to pay household bills! Both should be putting in most of the paychecks into this account!! Each of you should save a small allowance from your pay checks and the rest goes into that account for HOUSEHOLD BILLS!!
If you’re married, your money and your bills should be shared. She’s not being a good wife, sorry. It’s selfish, and selfishness doesn’t work in a marriage. She should help.